the heart that you call home

“Negativity”

baddominicana:

alexandraerin:

This isn’t going to be the most articulate thing I’ve ever written because I’m not at my most coherent right now.

People who defend polite bigotry from aggressive call-outs under the guise of encouraging positivity and discouraging negativity because there’s too much negativity in the world or because they think positive approaches are more helpful… they really have no idea how much negativity they themselves are spreading, how their cheery defense of bigotry affects those who are affected by that bigotry.

If you can cheerfully leave people shaking wrecks through your casual inhumanity and chide them for being so negative, you are not a positive force in the world even if you never say a single “rude” word.

precisely.

youre over here playin devils advocate for the destroyers of black and brown bodies, w a smile on your face, it dont matter if you havent cursed, you are offensive and negative and fucking DANGEROUS to peoples livelihood. period.

(via youarenotyou)

malanga-coco:

one day i will completely hash out how bitterness as an insult is more potent as an attack against women then it is against men.

and i think a lot of it has to do with the thought that women are irrational and if we have been hurt by a man and justly place blame on that man (I.E not blame herself for how someone else treated her) then she is damaged goods.

i feel like it ties into the virginity complex. untainted by men so the naivete leaves a woman open and accepting of whatever “he” has to offer.

and the alternative to a woman untainted is the woman who blames herself/ says “boys will be boys”. 

a bitter woman is an experienced woman. a bitter woman is a woman that isn’t here for your shit and she can see the warning signs within the first few moments of interacting with you.

but worse of all, a bitter woman will turn you down and hold you accountable for what you’ve done *along with what she has done.

i feel like ultimately a bitter woman can tell the difference between someone worth learning with and someone who is just there for the ride. and that scares some men because that means she is unavailable to be used. something many men feel is their God given right.

i see bitter being used against men like they are petty. bitter for women means she is damaged and nothing she says is worth listening to.

*i have never met a woman who hasn’t thought about everything she has done in a relationship that may have contributed to it falling apart. even if she was being abused. i’m not saying that women who don’t think about their contributions in the relationship don’t exist though.

(via youarenotyou)

there are some people on tumblr i really love, but i just can’t handle seeing skinny people on my dash all the time