This isn’t going to be the most articulate thing I’ve ever written because I’m not at my most coherent right now.
People who defend polite bigotry from aggressive call-outs under the guise of encouraging positivity and discouraging negativity because there’s too much negativity in the world or because they think positive approaches are more helpful… they really have no idea how much negativity they themselves are spreading, how their cheery defense of bigotry affects those who are affected by that bigotry.
If you can cheerfully leave people shaking wrecks through your casual inhumanity and chide them for being so negative, you are not a positive force in the world even if you never say a single “rude” word.
youre over here playin devils advocate for the destroyers of black and brown bodies, w a smile on your face, it dont matter if you havent cursed, you are offensive and negative and fucking DANGEROUS to peoples livelihood. period.
one day i will completely hash out how bitterness as an insult is more potent as an attack against women then it is against men.
and i think a lot of it has to do with the thought that women are irrational and if we have been hurt by a man and justly place blame on that man (I.E not blame herself for how someone else treated her) then she is damaged goods.
i feel like it ties into the virginity complex. untainted by men so the naivete leaves a woman open and accepting of whatever “he” has to offer.
and the alternative to a woman untainted is the woman who blames herself/ says “boys will be boys”.
a bitter woman is an experienced woman. a bitter woman is a woman that isn’t here for your shit and she can see the warning signs within the first few moments of interacting with you.
but worse of all, a bitter woman will turn you down and hold you accountable for what you’ve done *along with what she has done.
i feel like ultimately a bitter woman can tell the difference between someone worth learning with and someone who is just there for the ride. and that scares some men because that means she is unavailable to be used. something many men feel is their God given right.
i see bitter being used against men like they are petty. bitter for women means she is damaged and nothing she says is worth listening to.
*i have never met a woman who hasn’t thought about everything she has done in a relationship that may have contributed to it falling apart. even if she was being abused. i’m not saying that women who don’t think about their contributions in the relationship don’t exist though.
I’m getting over my shame and internalized ableism and asking for help. I’m a chronically ill unemployed trans gurl who just left sex work (as in, yesterday) because I finally lost my shit. I’m also moving out of my abusive household in June, around the 15th or so. I don’t have a place to stay yet so the more money I have saved up, the more likely someone is going to trust me to move in with them.
Thanks to sex work and friends donating, I’ve saved up $2,000 for deposits, first/last month’s rent, housing applications, etc. I’m trying to raise another $2,000 to get me through the summer. Starting September/October, I should be receiving financial aid from my university, so that will help.
To give you an idea of where the money is going:
- Rent for a shared room is $500-$550/month
- Utilities are anywhere between $20-$60/month
- I’m limiting myself to $100-$125/month for food
- Gas is $40 a full tank, so about a $80/month if I do this right
I’ll also be looking for a job at this time. I have an open interview tomorrow so hopefully I’ll get called for a second interview!
Important to note! My memoir, Trauma Queen, is aiming to be published on May 31st, 2013. It’s going to cost $20, so if you want to hold off donating to buy the book, that’s totally understandable. I have a collection of writing and art here (x) that you can read/watch, and a zine here (x). I’ll also be selling various articles of clothing, shoes, collector’s items, etc. in the next week or so.
Signal boosting would be appreciated, and any donations would be very helpful. <3
¡Gracias! / Thank you!,
P.S. (if the link doesn’t work, there’s a donate button on my page.)
there are some people on tumblr i really love, but i just can’t handle seeing skinny people on my dash all the time
PLEASE REPOST- my friend Joey hasn’t been heard from since last night. Please spread this around. He’s a wonderful person and a lot of people are missing him right now. He lives in west Philly and is active on tumblr, facebook and other social media sites but hasn’t updated since yesterday.
Joey Ross is a local Philly kid who goes to shows frequently and I’m sure some of you know personally. He’s been missing since yesterday. If you hear from him or know someone who has, please call either number listed below.
267-252-4447 or 856-577-4719
The long awaited.. PRINCE AND THE PRINCESS…
My final project for my book arts class. Hope you enjoy ;o;
ohmygosh all the feels
CUTEST STORY EVER
That’s beautiful… I just wish what the king said were entirely true, because I think not everyone thinks that way… :/
I need this story. Like, in print form. To read to my kid.
CRIES A WHOLE LOT